Keeping the Romance Alive

You and your partner have just had another terrible fight over a cup of coffee. You make yourself believe that it's normal. However, no matter how much you try, you are really convinced it's not something that every couple in the world goes through. Every single day, you fight over a cup of coffee --- you fight while having coffee and you fight about coffee. No, it's really not normal. You begin to wonder how you've come to this, fighting over trivial things, despite the fact that you've been together for years. Well, maybe that's the problem --- you've been together for years.

Sometimes, couples get used to each other that they already know what the other is thinking, even without saying a single word. This makes relationships boring. In fact, many couples around the world break up not because of a third party but because they just fall out of love. What makes people lose their feelings? It's the lack of surprises. It's the boredom that comes with knowing each other so well and refusing to try new things.

If you're one of these people, it's time to light the fire once again or keep the fire burning by changing a few things about yourself or the relationship. Here are some tips to keep your dying romance alive.

• Huh? What Anniversary? What is it with men that they can only remember three important dates --- their birthday, their mom's birthday and Superbowl. If you're like this, then grow up and renovate some rooms in your brain to accommodate occasions that matter to your partner.

• Let's talk about sex. You have no idea how sex can act as a super glue that can help you fix broken relationships. Don't deprive yourself of the most pleasurable activity in the world. Make love to your partner and while you do it, make some effort. You wonder why your partner is always giving you cold treatment in the morning? You must have dozed off again last night --- while doing it.

• Let's talk about sex one more time. It doesn't mean, however, that you have to do it all the damn time. Sometimes, talking about sex is enough. Studies show that couples who talk about it are half as likely to cheat as those who do not.

• Be spontaneous. Your life is not a Hugh Grant movie --- predictable. Come up with surprises.

Getting into a relationship is one thing. Keeping the relationship is another. Sometimes, keeping it can be much more difficult than getting into it. Thus, whatever you do, always consider what your partner feels. Make him or her feel special every time. Don't get tired of the relationship. Don't get tired of love. Whenever you feel like you want to quit, always remember why you wanted this relationship in the first place. That should keep you going.